Many times in your life you will wish you could change what you just said, but looking back at the breakup, you could say nothing at all. You were too stunned to speak and you should be thankful. If you could have spoken, you would have cried and begged him to love you and screamed you could not live without him. That would have made you look weak and desperate and reaffirmed his decision to dump you. He broke up with you, but
you still love him, so you have to play it smart.
You should not feel bad because there is nothing you could have said to change his mind. But, you can say something later, that will make him as stunned as you were and reverse the breakup. You should not do it right now, not until you have your emotions in check. In fact you should not have contact of any kind with him for a few weeks. Forget his phone number and email address, you need to drop out of sight completely.
If you can have the strength to stay completely away from him, it will give him a chance to see what his life is like without you. As long as you are around to constantly remind him of the breakup, he will never miss you. By taking yourself completely out of his life, he will not only have the chance to miss you, but have second thoughts about the breakup.
Once you get him to thinking of you in a positive way and start to miss you, you have opened a pathway to getting your ex boyfriend back. If possible, it would be a good time to take that vacation you have been putting off. Or at least get away for a while by visiting out of town relatives. That will be a sure way to keep you away from him.
Remember the things that interested you before you met the man that you love, the one that just broke up with you? You spent more time with your family and maybe were thinking of taking some night classes. Now would be a good time to return to that life. You might have been centering your life around your ex boyfriend and he felt smothered. So, get used to a different routine and even when you get back together, keep your other interests.
When you stop trying to get your ex back, he will be wondering what happened to you. This curiosity will make him call you. He will be calling just to make sure you are still sitting around waiting for his call. You should not answer it because you want to be sure you are composed when you talk to him. Let him leave a message and when you are sure you will not cry at the sound of his voice, return his call.
This is when you reverse the breakup. After a little small talk, tell him you have done a lot of thinking and you realize the breakup was best for both of you. Keep your cool and wish him a good life and end the conversation. This will turn everything around to your favor and it will be his job to get you back.
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