The sad truth is that, if you already suspect an infidelity on the part of your husband or wife, there probably is something going on at some level. However, what is going on may not actually be a full-blown affair. It could just an emotional affair, or it could just be a deep dissatisfaction with your relationship that is leading their thoughts to stray now and then.
In any event, suspicion without evidence is never totally conclusive and always leaves you feeling a bit uneasy - but without a way to really put your finger on what is going on. It can be helpful to get some hints about which types of behaviors that your spouse is exhibiting may be indications of an affair.
If you believe your spouse is cheating, here are 5 telltale signs of a cheating spouse:
1. Can't explain their whereabouts:
You may find yourself in situations whereby your spouse has come home from a day or evening out but was a bit fuzzy when it came to describing just where or how they were spending their time. Sure, everyone has a right to privacy now and then. However, if your spouse has always been generally pretty open about what they do when the two of you are apart - and yet lately they seem to clam up when you bring up the topic - that is a possible sign of a cheating spouse.
2. Buys gifts for "customers" or other people frequently:
Does your spouse carelessly leave receipts or credit card statements for gifts they are buying for another person? Usually, people who cheat on their husband or wife spend a lot of money in the process. That is going to leave a paper trail sooner or later, and you may have already seen signs of it.
3. Works late often:
If your spouse is often coming home very late, claiming that he or she had to work overtime, it could be the totally innocent sign of a diligent worker - or it could be an affair. Usually, working late in itself is not a sign of an infidelity, but combined with some of the other behaviors in this list it sure could be.
4. Often comes home late or leaves on trips unexpectedly at the last minute:
Think back to the past 6-12 months: has your spouse just up and left to go on a business trip or another type of vacation with little advance notice? This is a common behavior of cheating husbands and wives.
5. They refuse to talk to you about the idea of an affair or an emotional affair:
If you have brought up your suspicions about an affair to your spouse in the past, have you found that they refused to talk to you about it? Usually, flat denial is a loud and clear sign that something fishy is going on. After all, someone with nothing to hide will not clam up, get defensive, or try to change the subject if you bring it up.
Look for these 5 telltale signs of a cheating spouse. If you recognize any of these signs, be sure to take the steps to get to the bottom of it. Then, you will need to work to save your relationship so that you can regain the trust and find the love again.