I think that the biggest problem guys have in starting a conversation is that they build it up into this life changing event when really it is as simple as the word hello.
Meeting a girl is not a make it or break it deal in your life. There is not just one special person out there in the world for you. Even most people who believe in soul mates agree that there are several people in the world who could qualify as your soulmates.
I think people build it up so much that they act like the girl they are going to go talk to is there one chance in the world, in their entire life, that they have for happiness and love.
So not true. There are a lot of fish in the sea. You need to truly believe this – realize this – if you are going to be successful with women. There are many, dozens, of women out there that you will cross paths with who could make you happy. Once you completely understand this, you are on your way to meeting one of them.
So take all that pressure off of yourself to meet your dream woman and just practice starting a conversation with everyone you know. I’m talking the person who delivers our office mail, the barista at the coffee shop, the clerk at the market … everyone. If you practice initiating a conversation with everyone you come into contact with (provided its an appropriate situation) you will soon overcome any of your hesitation about approaching a girl you are interested in.
It will become natural to start a conversation with a beautiful, enticing woman if you do it all the time with everyone you come into contact with. Trust me, it is much easier than you might think.
If there is a girl you run into regularly you might think of an interesting topic of conversation to start with, but you don’t have to do that. It works just as well to approach a woman and say “Hello, how are you today?” Then you can gauge by her response, whether additional conversation is warranted. Which leads me to another tidbit of
advice, if you pick up a book on body language and memorize it, you should be able to instantly tell if the woman you approach wants to have a conversation.
The key is that when she is giving body signals that she doesn’t want to talk, you need to be savvy enough to figure out why. It could be that she is not interested in you, but it could also easily be because she is 10 minutes late for work and stopped for a coffee but now is really stressing out about getting to work on time. Read her signals and respond accordingly, without necessarily taking any of it personally.
If it is someone you do see often, try again another time and see what her response is. Remember that often it has nothing to do with you. It could be that she is stressed out or late or both. And remember that sometimes the easiest way to begin a conversation is the simplest: by just saying hello.
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